Q. What’s the big deal just making out with a girl?

A. My theory on why so many people enjoy the Jerry Springer-type talk shows is because when you see how messed up the guests on the show are, it make you feel like you’ve really got your life together.

Unfortunately, the same distortion of reality happens when it comes to our relationships. Because we’re exposed to constant sexual references on TV, video games, magazines, music, and hallway conversations at school, we begin to think that our relationships must be pretty wholesome. But if we step back from all the lies and distortions that we see every day, and look into our own hearts, we’ll begin to see a very different view of our sexuality.

So, when it comes to making out with a girl, ask yourself one question: Isn’t there something in you that wants it to be a big deal?

Beneath all the locker room bragging about sexual conquests on prom night, I know that in every guy there is a deeper longing to want to cherish a girl. When a guy thinks about his bride, he doesn’t think of “getting some” from her. He thinks about giving his life for her. Why, then, as we wait for the big day, do we devalue the girls (and ourselves)?

I remember making out with girls in high school, and convincing myself that it wasn’t a big deal. But now I wish more than anything that I reserved such kisses for my bride, instead of dispensing them to girls who I never saw again after graduation. But at the time you don’t think about the future. You just look at the classmates around you, and you figure that this is just the way life is supposed to be.

What happens to the unsuspecting teen is that the initial intimacy and excitement of a kiss is worn thin when he or she begins to give it away like it’s a handshake. The profound meaning and depth of simple acts of affection are lost when we settle for hook-ups. The world would like to tell us that we’re acquiring better dating skills, but we’re really just we numbing ourselves.

So, before you go there again, ask yourself: How many memories of passionate kisses do I want my future bride to have with other guys? So, why not save your memory for her, too? Not only is your purity a gift for her, it will make her affection seem more unique to you as well. In the long run, this will bond the two of you much closer than all the “experience” the world recommends you have before marriage.

from: http://www.chastity.com/chastity/index.php?id=7&entryid=300