Q. Is it ok to fantasize about my boyfriend? You know, is just thinking about it wrong?

A. It depends upon what you mean about fantasize. For example, it is both healthy and natural for an engaged couple to look forward to the relations that come within marriage.

But, if you're playing out sexual acts in your mind, then this is not pure. It's just teasing you, because the mind is not content with thinking about sex. The more you think of impurities, the more you will want to fulfill those thoughts. On the other hand, the more you purify your thoughts, the purer your actions will become.

In fact, we usually try to rationalize lustful thoughts under the guise that "we're not actually doing it." But we should recall words of Christ, who said "whoever even lusts after a woman has committed adultery with her in his heart."

With that having been said, if you're a long way from marriage, it's not even appropriate to look forward to marital relations with a boyfriend. Now is the time to look forward to getting to know him better, and to focus on where God may be calling you.