Have you ever been bullied? Most of us have been bullied one way or the other. Once in our life someone had tried to dominate us and step on our self respect.
Bullying happens when someone tries to dominate another person with the use of force. Are not we all guilty of trying to dominate others? Our “force” might take different shapes and forms, but it is still a “force” to take down others.
Those who try to dominate are actually small insecure people. They bully others to feel big. It is a way to cover up their smallness. They prey on the weak because they are to coward to pick somebody their own size.
I have seen this kind of bullying not only in school, but in relationships as well. It is always the insecure partner who does the bullying. The first part of the bullying starts by demoralizing his partner. After the partner is in a weakened state he can then proceed to dominating her. One of the most popular weapons of choice is blame. He will blame his partner with everything. And leaves himself immaculate. His partner will believe all his blames and thus she will submit herself to him.
These bullies typically target their partner’s self respect. Once they are able to step on that, it is a free reign for them. They now feel big knowing they are the ruler of the relationship.
Unfortunately, a lot of people let themselves get bullied in their relationships. They typically say, “I have accepted the good and the bad of my partner”. But what if the bad goes to worse? To worst? Would you still accept it? Why?
If a person loves you, or at least respects you, he will not try to dominate you. Love does not dominate, it serves. Love does not step on others but it lifts. Love’s hand is not open to grab and pull but to reach out and help.
If your partner is stepping down on you, it is time to step out.
You are not a door mat.
Do deserve a lot more.
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