Do You Let Others Step On You?

By Daxx Bondoc

Have you ever been bullied? Most of us have been bullied one way or the other. Once in our life someone had tried to dominate us and step on our self respect.

Bullying happens when someone tries to dominate another person with the use of force. Are not we all guilty of trying to dominate others? Our “force” might take different shapes and forms, but it is still a “force” to take down others.

Those who try to dominate are actually small insecure people. They bully others to feel big. It is a way to cover up their smallness. They prey on the weak because they are to coward to pick somebody their own size.

I have seen this kind of bullying not only in school, but in relationships as well. It is always the insecure partner who does the bullying. The first part of the bullying starts by demoralizing his partner. After the partner is in a weakened state he can then proceed to dominating her. One of the most popular weapons of choice is blame. He will blame his partner with everything. And leaves himself immaculate. His partner will believe all his blames and thus she will submit herself to him.

These bullies typically target their partner’s self respect. Once they are able to step on that, it is a free reign for them. They now feel big knowing they are the ruler of the relationship.

Unfortunately, a lot of people let themselves get bullied in their relationships. They typically say, “I have accepted the good and the bad of my partner”. But what if the bad goes to worse? To worst? Would you still accept it? Why?

If a person loves you, or at least respects you, he will not try to dominate you. Love does not dominate, it serves. Love does not step on others but it lifts. Love’s hand is not open to grab and pull but to reach out and help.

If your partner is stepping down on you, it is time to step out.

You are not a door mat.

Do deserve a lot more.

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Are You A Person of Substance or Pretense?

Do you value style more than substance? Are you just loud and no melody?

Most people these days have devoted their time, energy and money in showing off. Their lives revolve on being someone who they are not. They become so absorbed trying to live the lifestyle to which they do not belong. They love to be seen even though there is nothing to see (in them).

They love to be shocking to get attention. They are like colorful balloons. They look pretty on the outside but all air in the inside.

These people seem to have everything except themselves. In their pretending they have forgotten who they really are. They have come to be ashamed of their past life, friends and mostly their past selves. They will desperately protect their status quo even if their actual status is a big K.O.

But these pretenders cannot escape themselves in the end. Their shallow ways of life will soon evaporate. And then, they will only be left with themselves, their real selves. They will have to look at the man in the mirror whom they hate and deny.

On the contrary, a person of substance is a person who does not pretend. He knows who he is, no more no less. He is joyful of his strengths and aware of his weakness. He tries to improve himself, but he does it based on reality. He does not change his “acting”, but he changes his being. The more he changes himself for the better, the more people respect him. He does not need to pretend to be someone who is not because he knows it is useless.

A person of substance does not try to win the approval of others. But others try to win his approval. He does not have the desire to shock and awe others. He knows that silent waters run deep.

Stop pretending.

Be yourself.

Be your better self.

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