A. Here are three guidelines already in your heart for knowing how much is too much: How much would you want some girl kissing your future husband?
How much kissing would you do with Christ present in the room?
How would your boyfriend kiss you in front of your dad?
These may seem like extreme guidelines, but I think they make sense for three reasons:
1. Girls often do not realize that guys are wired very differently when it comes to sexuality. A girl might have a passionate kiss, and be thinking about her warm fuzzy feelings or even about volleyball practice. She has no problem in her mind expecting that it will be able to stop there. Meanwhile, the guy's body works at a much faster pace, and his sexual desires are being ignited. It's a tease. Perhaps the couple will stop the first or second or third time, but gradually the old boundaries will be pushed back because you begin to experience the intoxicating bonding power that God has in store for you in marriage. I have seen too many young, spiritual relationships get demolished because the couple thought that they could safely sit on the fence of purity. So, allow purity to become your superglue.
2. If you do not end up marrying him, you will never regret telling your future husband how pure you were with your old boyfriend.
3. If you do end up marrying him, then you'll have all the more excitement to share within marriage. In the mean time, you’ll spend more time learning how to express non-physical forms of intimacy that will deepen your love.
Take this to prayer if you truly wish to know the will of God as it relates to purity, I know he will show you. We just have to sit still long enough to listen.
source:http://www.pureloveclub.com/
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